I had wanted to do this post since the news of BankyW and Adesua Etomi’s engagement broke the internet but I have not been in the right frame of mind to write, reason being that I am part of the set of Ladies who were happy sad for them. If you follow me on social media and have listened to some of my radio program episodes, you should know that BankyW is was my celebrity crush. Chai!

My heart broke that day o. But I was glad and pleased with his choice. I will not say I was surprised, on the contrary, I saw it coming. After seeing the couple on BankyW’s Made For You video, I told my friend that if Banky doesn’t marry this girl then he may not get married in life or may just be waiting for me. LOL.

Secondly, I was turned off by the charade lessons I read from different blogs. From the assumption that they were not having sex, to their fasting and prayer being the reason BankyW decided to marry Adesua. Sigh*.  They were so lame and cliché that I just lost the zeal to dabble in the space at the time. But thankfully, this morning, i stumbled on post written by Mercy Makinde on iAspire blog and I was pleased to see that there are still bloggers/writers whose sense are not paining them (forgive me, I saw that line on instablog…LOL)

For me, one resounding message I will love to share with every lady reading this before you enjoy Mercy Makinde’s views is a very simple one – Build yourself, focus on your career, be the right woman for your kind of right man and know your worth. I hope to expand on my very simple message soon but before then, please read these lessons as written by Mercy Makinde for iAspire blog below:

HUMILITY – I see a very humble Olubankole Wellington. He was famous way before Adesua came on the scene. But he didn’t see himself as a bigger person or star. He was humble enough to “slide” into her DM! If he had said two years ago “I’m a bigger star and I shouldn’t be seen sending a DM to someone I’m obviously bigger than” then he just may have missed a chance to be with the woman of his dreams and we would probably not be celebrating them today. So if you are one of those “celebs” that feel too important to respond to a DM let alone send, please learn humility from Banky W so you don’t miss out on possible opportunities. You never know!

DARE TO BE DIFFERENT– The trend now is to record marriage proposals and post LIVE “as e dey hot”! In fact at a point it looked like any proposal that wasn’t ‘videod’ and posted on social media, the couple were not really in love! And these proposals would always come in form of all manner of silly stunts. I saw one where the guy pretended to be dead and the guy’s friend called the lady, on getting to the scene he “resurrected” and proposed. Really??? Nigerians just took the proposal drama overboard yet none of them broke the Internet like this nice, sweet and quiet proposal that we got to know two months after! You don’t need all the drama to trend. You can still trend when you do things differently. What really count are your antecedents not the theatrical antics of your engagement!

PRICELESS FRIENDS – The real MVPS of this whole spectacle are friends of Banky and Adesua. Heavens bless them, as they didn’t feel the need for relevance and importance to be the first to break the news. We know how we can like to be the first to post! They kept it close to their chest not just since the engagement but from the time they started dating. These kinds of friends are EVERYTHING! Not only did they respect their wish to keep the relationship out of public eyes but they also helped them grow in it. They didn’t find reasons to break them up. God Bless us with friends like these!

DOING THE RIGHT THING EARNS YOU ADMIRERS TOO – Many believe to be in the news, to get everyone’s attention, to break the internet you must be doing something out of the normal. But here are two very regular people; no scandals, no fighting, no shades, no subs, no indecent talk or dressing, nothing out of the ordinary yet they won everybody’s heart. So for all you youngsters who will record yourself naked or half naked “twerking”, some will record themselves weeping over people or issues that do not concern them just to get noticed, others will seek unnecessary attention by cyber-bullying others, you don’t need negativity to trend. Just do the right thing and you could break the internet like Adesua and Banky

YOUR MISTAKES CAN BE IGNORED IF YOU DO THE RIGHT THING – I don’t know how many of you noticed how Banky spelt the word “Marry”. He actually wrote “Maary”. Intentional or not, trust me this could have been the headline given another circumstance. But the whole mystery that shrouded the proposal and the entire surprise package didn’t let us notice and when we did, we couldn’t even be bothered! Imagine if they had been shoving their love story down our throats from the very beginning and flaunting the entire affair on social media, I bet many would have just been waiting for a slip and this particular error would have just been unpardonable.

CELEBRITIES CAN HAVE A PRIVATE LIFE – Banky and Adesua have successfully debunked the myth that a celebrity CANNOT have a private life! Certainly they can if they so desire. You don’t have to post it to prove it. In an industry where everyone is over exposed, the coolest thing you can do is to maintain your mystery. This is why Adesua and Banky stand out. This is why they broke the Internet. They left us all gob smacked. If they have been frolicking our timelines before now with “relationship goals” they would have lost the excitement of yesterday because we would have seen it all already!

RECOGNIZE GOOD BUSINESS OPPORTUNITY– This is the most important lesson for me! This true-life love story has already sold The Wedding Party part 2! Whether you liked Part 1 or not you will definitely want to see the part 2 now that you know what’s up! So this is me feeling like Aunty Mo. Even if I didn’t have the intention of having The Wedding Party Part 2, the moment I realize the duo are dating and soon to be married, the best business decision I would ever make at that point is to get a script for part two! Are you a businessperson? Look around you and see what opportunities that are lurking around sometimes right under your nose that can propel your business to the next level. We do not need a Prophet to tell us that Part 2 of this movie will floor whatever box office record Part one broke!

After learning all this vital life lessons from this lovely couple, join me in wishing them a very blissful union that will be blessed with very beautiful babies. I can already imagine how cute and adorable they will be!

Congratulations Banky and Adesua.