Dear Elsians,
I am a young girl in my late teens, and I had been dating the same boy for almost 4years (we started as friends in church). We were both happy for a while, and all our friends in church were jealous of us. I had decided to remain a virgin till I at least had gained admission into the University, before I would let him touch me.
One day we were alone in his house and after several playful touching and smooching, we finally “did it” and he kept telling me how happy he was that I let him be my first, he said he would never leave me and that I would be his wife; I was really happy, and I felt he was really my soulmate. After about 2weeks, I noticed he stopped texting or calling me, each time I called his phone, his room mate would pick up to give me one excuse or the other. I thought it was nothing, until the day I bumped into him on my street walking with another girl. I almost fainted, they were holding hands and laughing, when I called out to him, he ignored me.
As I write this I am about 3 months pregnant, I have not told anyone at home because my mother would kill me. He still does not take my calls, and I have no idea what to do. I need your advice before I do something stupid because I have considered killing myself.
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Hmmmmmmm, this is sad and pathetic.Well my advice is for you to tell it out either to someone so close to ur mother and let the cat out of the bag, so that they may be aware of it on time and solution we be made.It is either they both join hands with you to find the guy or they leave you to give birth to baby safely, that is the best opinion and i personally think that the best wise decision. Everyone fall in love but it just a pity when good and honest ones fall into the captive. may God help all our young ladies out there! Amen
i had a friend in this same situation. she tried to kill herself a couple of times but it didnt work. she had d baby and she says it was d best decision she has ever made. pray to God to give u d boldness to tell ur mom. it is well
I hate it when people contemplate suicide, like it ever solves anything! You’re about to be a mother now (if u decide to keep the baby), so do yourself and the baby a favour – tell your mother or whoever is responsible for you and get ready for a new chapter of your life!
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Find where he lives and confront him, his response will determine what to do nexT
Truth be told, once you tell him about your condition, he is either going to say he is not responsible or that you should abort it! So best bet, find him and tell him to his face but make sure you tell someone older that you are close tol so that the person can help broch the issue with your folks. Believe me they can not kill you, they will be very mad but they will get over it. Its important they know cos they will be the only sopport you will have at some point. Pele oooo , best of luck
It is in your best interests to tell someone what is happening to you. You are a danger to yourself, and you need to tell your mom. She would be angry at you, no doubt, but she would not want to see you suffer. Make the right decision,
Tell your parents about it..they might hate and insult you for the next two months or more bt they can’t kill you..Just hav the baby..nothing more you can do about it. Won’t advice u to have an abortion..had a friend that aborted hers and till this day regrets the decision
Killing yourself is not an option…. Too many similar cases ended up in great joy…. Saddle your horse again and start living… Move on with your life…. May GOD help you.
I can’t tell you what to do – but I can tell you what not to do; DO NOT KILL YOURSELF.Having a baby; being a single mother is not easy when you’re not ready for it – but worse things have happened. You’ll make the best of it.Stay alive. It’s a baby; not the end of the world. I’ll be praying with you.
Killing yourself will not solve anything and neither can you turn back the hands of time.Boys can be assholes, promise you heaven on earth, then turn around and act totally differently. You kill yourself and he’ll just keep living his life with another girl! What you need to do put a bullet between his eyes! I’m kidding oh…What you really need to do is pray, pray to God and then tell him about it…3months is far too long already, u should have told him the minute you knew and on the other hand, tell your mother, its not the easiest thing to do but you have to do so before she finds out herself or the pregnancy starts showing.Have it at the back of your mind that she’ll get angry with you but a mother’s love is the purest, truest and most sincere of all…she’ll be there for youWe all make mistakes in life, what really matters is how we deal with and learn from them. This isn’t the end of life for you. I hope you can see it from a diffrent angle.Might seem so now but there is always a blessing hidden in everything.
Tell ur mum, don’t abort, people will still mock u anyway. Keep the child, tell d guyj if he chooses to be an idiot, let him be. Its gon be hard for a lil’ while, face it, soon you’ll be happy.If u kill yourself, u’ll go to hell. Stay alive, get pass the ugly state u have found urself, d baby will give u joy. Ur mother will be mad at u initially but I bet she would be calm soon. Speak with ur mom, face it. All will soon be well, u have to pay for being stupid though.
Δσŋt̲̥̅̊ u ever kill urself becos of a mere man ,,,,there is hope in the future dear!!!just be strong, is Ɠ♡♡D to cry,,cry out d pains but Δσŋt̲̥̅̊ let it hold U. Somtin better wud happen dear. Most men are bad bt thr r Ɠ♡♡D ones..jst learn frm ur mistake n pik up ur broken hat.. Is hard knw bt it has happnd n d only solution now is to set out plans . God lovs U
No don’t kill yourself because that won’t slove the problem, you will only cause more agony and pain to your family and freinds, it won’t be easy but you have to speak out, tell someone elderly and reliable, I suggest you tell your mother first. Goodluck
I was once in her shoes but mine wasn’t pregnancy.. We dated in church.. I was 21 ba k Den.. We courted for 2years+ suddenly he changed, said he wanted to settle down n m too young for us to settle down.. Blah blah.. Not knowing he had already impregnated a lady wanted to get married to her n was looking for ways to quit.. Believe me I was heartbroken, humiliated by our church members who were envious of us… I felt ill, infact I lost weight.. With time I summoned the courage up and moved on with my life.. Now am happy I wasn’t married to him cause I would have been derived of so many things.. My advice to the lady is talk to your mum, tell her your condition..let her know what is going on . it’s 3months n it’s gonna showcase soon enough… . Or u think say d belle go fly comot?? Let her follow u to d guy’s place… Pls don’t opt for abortion oh.. I pray God help you..