Today marks exactly one year since I underwent major surgery: an open myomectomy, and most days, especially as I sit to type this morning, I feel gratitude. Gratitude to God for being Consistent, Faithful, the Almighty and Gracious. If you missed this video where I shared about the journey before, during and after my open myomectomy, please watch below;
What is an Open Myomectomy?
Open myomectomy is a surgical procedure to remove uterine fibroids through an incision in the lower abdomen. It is often recommended when fibroids cause significant symptoms that impact a woman’s quality of life.
A New Perspective on Women’s Health
The experiences of the past 14 months have heightened my sensitivity to the struggles women face as the reproductive powerhouses of humanity. One key realization is that while multiple women may receive similar diagnoses, their symptoms and experiences are often unique.
Women deal with an array of health issues – hormonal imbalances, PCOS, fibroids, menstrual disorders, vaginal and pelvic problems, and pregnancy-related conditions. However, societal ignorance and misplaced opinions often exacerbate these struggles. On social media, I’ve seen young men and, unfortunately, some women speak about women’s health with a lack of understanding, treating these conditions as if they’re self-inflicted. Comparisons with mothers, neighbours, or curated online versions of people’s lives only deepen the issue.
Breaking the Silence
This ignorance stems largely from cultural norms that have shielded women’s struggles in secrecy. Many of us grew up without understanding the nuances of family structures around us. For instance:
- A family with only one child may not be able to conceive another.
- That aunt whose children have a 10-15 year gap may not have planned it.
- A seemingly polygamous family might reflect underlying fertility challenges.
- The pregnant woman who disappeared didn’t vanish into thin air.
- A childless couple might not have chosen to remain without children.
A lack of openness about these realities doesn’t mean they don’t exist. Through introspection and education, we can foster empathy and intentionality in supporting women in our lives, workplaces, and society.
What led to an Open Myomectomy
Before my surgery, I dealt with symptoms that many women with fibroids experience: heavy and painful periods, bloating, fatigue, bleeding and, at times, a sense of hopelessness. For too long, I dismissed these symptoms as “normal” until they began to affect my quality of life. Finally, a visit to my doctor confirmed what I suspected but didn’t want to admit: uterine fibroids. After discussing treatment options with my doctor and seeking second opinions, it became clear that an open myomectomy was the best path forward for me. It wasn’t an easy decision, but it was necessary for my long-term health and peace of mind.
One Year Later: Reflections on Healing
Now, one-year post-surgery, I can confidently say that the decision to have an open myomectomy was one of the best I’ve made for my health. The improvement in my physical well-being has been remarkable: no more debilitating pain, no more bleeding, and a renewed sense of energy.
Physical Healing
The first few weeks after surgery were the toughest. Managing pain, adjusting to limited mobility, and permitting myself to rest were all part of the process. Over time, my body grew stronger, and the scar – a physical reminder of the experience – became a badge of resilience.
Emotional Growth
Emotionally, the surgery taught me to prioritize self-care and listen to my body. It also highlighted the importance of having a support system. Friends, family, and even online communities of women who’d undergone similar procedures were invaluable in my recovery.
Lifestyle Adjustments
One year later, my doctor has yet to clear me to resume visiting the gym fully. This is major because my gym routines involve lifting dumbbells and heavy aerobics. I have incorporated long walks into my routine to maintain a healthy lifestyle. I ensure I clock 10 thousand daily steps 3- 4 times weekly. This has significantly helped my healing promise and kept my energy level. Regular exercise, balanced nutrition, and stress management have become non-negotiables.
Advice for Women Considering a Myomectomy
Since my surgery, several women have reached out for advice or to connect with my doctor. Studies show that 20-80% of women develop fibroids at some point in their lives. If you’re considering a myomectomy or dealing with fibroids, here are some tips from my experience:
- Do Your Research: Learn as much as you can about fibroids, treatment options, and recovery.
- Seek Support: Lean on family, friends, or support groups. You don’t have to navigate this alone.
- Advocate for Yourself: Don’t ignore symptoms or let anyone dismiss your concerns. Your health matters.
- Be Patient with Healing: Recovery takes time. Celebrate small victories and be kind to yourself.
Educating Men: What They Need to Know
Reproductive health issues aren’t just women’s issues—they impact everyone. Men must understand conditions like fibroids and their effects. Here’s how men can support:
- Listen with Empathy: Sometimes, all we need is someone to listen without judgment.
- Educate Yourself: Take the time to learn about reproductive health issues and their impact.
- Offer Practical Help: Whether it’s accompanying someone to a doctor’s appointment or helping during recovery, small gestures mean a lot.
When men are informed and supportive, they become allies in breaking the stigma surrounding women’s health.
Breaking the Stigma Around Reproductive Health
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is the importance of normalizing conversations about reproductive health. Too often, women suffer in silence, afraid of being judged or dismissed. By sharing our stories, we empower ourselves and pave the way for others to seek help and take charge of their health.
A year after my open myomectomy, I’m stronger, healthier, and more grateful than ever. This journey has taught me the value of self-care, the strength of community, and the importance of advocating for one’s health. To every woman facing similar challenges: you are not alone, and your healing journey is worth it. And to the men in our lives: thank you for being allies in this conversation – your support makes all the difference.
Let’s continue to share, educate, and empower each other. Together, we can break the silence and build a world where women’s health is prioritised and understood.
