By Modebe Ikechukwu
Love can be defined under the following standpoints, a strong feeling of affection or a great interest and pleasure in something.
Trust can be defined under the following views. A firm belief in the reliability, truth, or ability of someone or something, or a hope, expectation.
In most cases, some schools of thought may cling to the view that love is greater, perhaps with allusion to Saint Paul’s letter to the Corinthians in 1Corinthians 13: 13 where he made mention of faith, hope, and love, but the greatest of these is love.
Love judging from the definitions earlier mentioned is a strong feeling of affection, or simply put, a great interest and pleasure in someone or something.
Young lovers of today may likely say this “I love him” or “I love her.” This could be as a result of that unexplainable feeling or sensation that overshadows him or her when their lover is physically present or whenever they hear his or her voice. In this case could “love pose to be greater?”
Trust on the other hand, from its definition is a firm belief in the reliability, truth, or ability of someone or something, or better still a hope or expectation.
Another school of thought may cling to the assertion that “Trust is greater.”
We might have heard or even seen cases where a girl can vouch for her boyfriend on the grounds of trust that she trusts him so much even apart from loving him that she holds him in high esteem that he can never be unfaithful to her.
Unfortunately, she finds out on a faithful day that her so called boyfriend whom she holds in high esteem was actually cheating on her. Her love for him was totally withered and hate sprang up, and all her trust in him faded away like a flower which when it was plucked in the morning looked fresh, but afterwards, towards evening lost its freshness.
Another school of thought is of a rather divergent view than the aforementioned. This school of thought beliefs that love and trust “ are the two sources of happiness in a relationship.” They also go further by saying “they are the founding fathers of any successful relationship.”
Put simply, they are the two pillars of any serious relationship. None can stand without the other, both must continually be renewed by the lovers each time, and they both co-exist to make a relationship last, and none supersedes the other in all ramifications.
At this juncture, after going through the various viewpoints of love and trust. It is in your choice of freewill to choose which school of thought will fit you in your relationship with your lover.
5 comments
Personally, I believe both are complimentary of each other. Sometimes, love sets the tone for love while some other times, trust sets the tone for love. Both are highly important as true love can’t go on for long without element of trust. I think love is greater simply cos most times, Love conquers all.
to just pen my thoughts, I’d say love. To be honest I think trust creates an illusion of sorts!! An idea of perfection and when the “trustee” ultimately “falls your hand” there are tears of “but I trusted you”. Here’s my 1kobo, accept that whoever you’re with isn’t perfect and is prone to bad judgment!!! (This is relationship wise) and as I do tell…. Love should matter isn’t it??? It is after-all the core of that relationship to begin with….. Right?
I would say that none is greater than the other, because they are like twins attached to one another. For you cant fully Love if you dont Trust and you cant fully Trust if you dont Love. Love is Trust and Trust is Love.. Thank You
I will pen my option to the school of thought which says both are pillar of a sound healthy relationship. No way to trust a person if you never love them but we can love people without trusting them ie we love them naturally and accept their untrustworthy lifestyle because we know they can fail which makes love greater than trust. As for healthy relationship, after love set in, trust must compliment it, beacuse it is trust that will set both mind at rest, when far apart, it is trust that won’t make you doubt or have heartache. I trust her she can do me any harm, trust sees where love can not see. That is why trust is complimentary to love. So Love and Trust and twin pillar that shouldn’t falter or fail in a healthy relationship.
No matter how untrustworthy someone is once love sets in he/she begins to walk towards perfection for the person he/she loves. Love always finds a reason to trust another. While love is the basis for any relationship trust is needed for its longevity. Trust is a head-thing but love is a heart-thing. You can’t trust someone or something you know nothing about but you can love someone or something just by the sight of it. Hence, the passion we have for a someone or something makes us try to know more about such a one or thing. Therefore, love precedes trust and is greater because it always finds a reason to trust another.