Dear Elsians,
I need serious help or I’m sure to lose it. I’ve even thought of going to a church to ask if they can carry out deliverance on me. My problem is I don’t know why I attract only bad guys. When I was younger I thought it was cool and I enjoyed the attention and fun that came with it. Dating artists and actors, the baddest guy in school, guys that are popular and got lots of attention from girls and at the end I was left heartbroken. Then as I got older and saw the errors of my ways I decided to change and go only for the good guys but that didn’t happen. Once I met this good great guy who said no sex till we get married and I was happy ‘finally’. He was from a strong Christian home and he was also a virgin. I was cool with the arrangement but after some months with me he started asking for sex. He wasn’t forceful about it but with other issues we had he ended up calling the relationship off. Now my problem is I want a good guy but can’t seem to attract one. I meet a guy today and he ends up talking about sex. I thought it was the way I dress and changed my looks and hairdo but things didn’t change. I decided not to talk about sex on my first or second date but the guys always seem to always bring the topic up. I go to buy something and the guy at the counter flirts with me and mentions sex somehow, I’m in a bus and the guy besides me trying to start a conversation chips it in. A guy in a ride stops to give me a lift and after about some minutes of getting to know each other he says “damn girl you sexy!!! Mind hanging out with me tonight?” Even met a pastor that started flirting with me. On line when I meet a guy and hope something will come out of it, its the same old story. Even where i go to buy shawarma sef, the shawarma guy started it. i went on a date recently and the guy didnt want to take me back home, he insisted i spend the night with him. Na strong head i take go back my house. Its tearing the heck out of me. Now I don’t dress like a hoe and I believe I don’t look like one but still when a guy starts a conversation with me the next thing he starts talking about is sex. Everybody wants to sleep with me. Are all guys like this or is me or do I need to go see a priest? Alison
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Sisteh, truth is, not all guys are like that. You are a girl(maybe a fine one sef), you are probably hot andddd u probably act naïve too(since u said u don’t dress like a whore). I’ve noticed that guys hit on naïve girls a lot cos they feel they are easier to lure. I hear a lot of things abt spiritual stuffs. I’ve heard dt some girls have seducing spirit (shrugs) sef. Sha, go for deliverance if u think its needed. If u r like me dt men mistake my niceness for flirting, then u myt have to reduce that too. Errrrm, I’m outta ideas…. Sha never think that sex is all u have to offer. May God help u
The last stanza of this writeup reminds of a girl i met recently ( i went on a date recently and the guy didnt want to take me back home, he insisted i spend the night with him. Na strong head i take go back my house.) she came from Agbara to surulere,we had plans of going to the beach, considering that sunday wz a rainy day we had to abort beach things and hang around>>>this wz our first date >>we had nice tyms cos i got along with her>>she’s pretty and sounds intelligent, not until she said she wanted to go back to Agbara at about 9pm in the night, i wz worried cos i kw the distance and holdups on that way on daily bases, i peddled her to stay over an leave very the next day at least it safer then, but she insisted on going back that night>>wz worried about her leaving back for agbara that late..finally she left,in a second tort it occurred to me that i am overdoing thingz by asking to stay over at ma place, on a third tort i noticed she’s having a tort i want to sleep with her,this is some one am just meeting for the first time. Now if this lady is already having sex on her mind on her first date >>hw wld she be able to build a healthy relationship>>my dear just pray to God to direct your part>>be happy>>its one life to live…
For every ‘what’ usually there’s a ‘why’.Are you sure even the deliverers will not seduce you or something close – since a pastor’s already flirting with you?I’d like to ask you one question: You know you really didn’t discuss your own feelings.How do you feel about all this?
Its simple kaarma coming back @ you,no words of advice wud do any good…tell a priest to pray for you..only God can help!!!
Interesting read. I believe much in “birds of the same feather…” so, ur plumage may be attracting the kinda “birds” you deserve. It is not enough to try and wash ur hands off the whole issue….and like my good friend mentioned earlier…there is the YOU part in all of this.
Dating artists and actors? Go home,you’re drunk
Stay out of relationship for the main time and work on rebranding yourself.
When you sleep with the bad boys you shared your body with them and the bond attracts people of similar character to you. Your aura to guys only presents you as a sex object.You need spiritual deliverance from the intimate bonds of yesteryears and accept Christ as your personal saviour. Your reaching out to the light will dismantle any negative threads holding you bonded to the past
Try and develop your intellectual capabilities your problem is that through time you’ve programmed yourself to attract people via your body and what they see. So please read books develop yourself and make your brain your highest seducing power, most importantly get close to God.Ps: boys will always be boys they chase anything with a skirt so go 4 the men and take your time before you tell anyone about your past only a boy would want to take advantage of you because of it and only a man would look past it and see the new you.
It’s either you were a Keziah before or you have been offered as a sacrifice to the god of sex. I don’t see anything other than those two reasons.If you were a Keziah, it’s normal, it’ll continue until you get worn out and depreciate in looks.If na sacrifice, I’ll let you meet our village chief priest.
Why would you be offended by the advances of a man? Do you think & feel that somehow thistype of behavior is “abnormal?” If so, why? Isn’t the man typically the pursuer? At your age, don’t you have plenty of experience with men in general? Why do you feel compelled to ask a bunch of stranger’s their advice on personal matters?The larger question is this: Why do guys just want to sleep with you but not date you? Maybe you are cheaper to bang than date = thats called economics…undecided undecidedHave you looked into the mirror lately? Are you overweight? Is your hair neatly combed? Is it styled? Have you applied excess lipstick and other beauty enhancing product’s to make yourself more attractive? In other word’s maybe thing’s will change if you look presentable enough to be seen with in public.
try dressin like a deeper life sister…n u ll be amazed at ow ur story wld change.u ll attract awesome men.that flared deeperlife skirt and cover up top is the most amazing fashion design God gave mankind.im no deeper lifer but i bliv if evrywoman on earth dressed like a deeper life sister the world wld b a better place.btw, if u say you dnt dress lik a hoe n now dress differently n yet d guys still go “damn,u sexy” den who is fooling who?ps: i know this topic is a blog publicity stunt buh thats alright…if nybody reads this,i op they find it useful if u cant go all deeperlife then pipe down on the hotness n sexyness n let us men think!
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Hi……My advice is not all guy wud request for sex in any reltionship he or she found their sef ! The truth is we all are living in a sick world cos the world is sinfull alweady….. Abegi the truth is just chill and focus on ur Life right now …….all I know is relationship of now days reqiure sex……The right one will show if u believe…..
I understand what ure going through. I used to be like that to. Then i changed church n Pastor preached about thoughts and words that manifest in real life. Try to always think about the exact kinda guy u want and say good things to yourself. Speak good words to your life. Command good guys into your life. Ud see a change. Be prayerful too: plenty devlish men out there.
If this is your problem, then you don’t have problem. This is 2014, and contrary to what many think, this has been happening long before this era. Men will always be interested in sex, some just show it more than others. Your role is to direct the flow of the agenda, you aren’t some helpless victim. You need to reflect the kind of qualities you want to attract. Na as you take present your market we go take price am. Lots of good looking girls fail to develop a personality with substance and then wonder why guys only see them as sex objects. I hope that isn’t the case with you. Chill out, improve yourself, and stop worrying about Mr Right, focus on being Mrs Right first…my 2 kobo
The natural instincts of a male usually gets sexual signals from even a nun cladded in obvious holy garments so getting sexual advances might not be a problem afterall. If you already have a spiritual notion about this, it is not yet a problem as well. The first thing you should know is that you radiate a sexual energy that gives people around you sexual vibes so you must first work on you. The work is easy, disconnect your own thoughts from the idea of sex, too many things about you tells you you are sexy which is true but you need to tell your self that your life is not just about being sexy and then attract only the values you define in yourself.Your personality defines your potentiality. No sane human will walk up to a nun and ask for sex, that doesn’t mean they are not sexually attractive… so work on redefining your personality, try having male friends too, maybe friends from your childhood, disconnect your mind from the obvious sexual energy you create and concentrate on the other values in you that you can dissipate. Find a community that you can identify with, interact with and discuss other issues pertaining to your life, business and growth with.. when the Sharwama guy winks at you, don’t smile or be polite, pay for your sharwama and walk away without it or without it, the next time you stop by he will know you are not to be winked at… don’t be rude but be firm at least… redefine you… even if you are wearing a cloak, it doesn’t stop people from being sexually attarcted to you but you mustn’t do that… more value in a good that is preserved. Think more of what you want to be seen as, stop seeing yourself as a sex symbol.If you haven’t confessed Christ, do that today… embrace him and hold on. Clean your hook, position your mind to be the fisher of men and not the fish that a pastor must rescue. Ask God to give you a new identity and you’ll be glad to you did.
The last stanza of this writeup reminds of a girl i met recently ( i went on a date recently and the guy didnt want to take me back home, he insisted i spend the night with him. Na strong head i take go back my house.) she came from Agbara to surulere,we had plans of going to the beach, considering that sunday wz a rainy day we had to abort beach things and hang around>>>this wz our first date >>we had nice tyms cos i got along with her>>she’s pretty and sounds intelligent, not until she said she wanted to go back to Agbara at about 9pm in the night, i wz worried cos i kw the distance and holdups on that way on daily bases, i peddled her to stay over an leave very the next day at least it safer then, but she insisted on going back that night>>wz worried about her leaving back for agbara that late..finally she left,in a second tort it occurred to me that i am overdoing thingz by asking to stay over at ma place, on a third tort i noticed she’s having a tort i want to sleep with her,this is some one am just meeting for the first time. Now if this lady is already having sex on her mind on her first date >>hw wld she be able to build a healthy relationship>>my dear just pray to God to direct your part>>be happy>>its one life to live…
Well.,you have to first know that you live in a wicked world and also that you are in the world and not of the world…..so do not be surprised when they attempt those crazy thing. Secondly.,be conscious of that Aura of yours and make a good impact on your life with it…anyone who is crazy to fuck you will be ready to do just as you have commanded….it is an added advantage for you (Blessing in disguise). Lastly.,pray to God the creator yourself because you are the first prophet of your destiny…tell God to show you your strength limit and keep your feet only within your strength zone. I have a lot to say to you but believe me.,time and blogs won’t permit that…just put your head up dear.
I guess you have gotten the needed advice you need. Be wise and use your head.
There is nothing wrong with you darling.When they start talking abt sex, do not encourage it.Ask for a change of topic and if he has a problem with that, walk and dont look back.Most women pass tru such..lolMine was even odder…both the fake and real ones wld be like- are you in a serious relationship? I want to marry you..While a lot of ppl wld argue this is a good thing,They wld think otherwise when d person proposing marriage to you has a baby mama or is a freak or some lousy fellow..So chill dear, you are fine and ok…dont feel bad abt cutting off such conversation. .a man can only do what you allow.Cheers
Actually, ur case is spiritual, whether u believe it or not, ders dis evil spirit dat doesn’t want u 2 ve a reasonable r/ship, de spirit wants to divert u to behave like a LovePeddler but God forbid. Its good as u voiced it out. I advise U to meet a strong spiritually anointed man of God for deliverance, by Gods’ grace dese things wil not repeat again, instead de next guy dat wil com wil be seriously seeking for ur hand in marriage. Den to crown it all, pray fervently and always ask God for forgiveness. Its well dear, its going to be fine with U.
So that the “strongly spiritually anointed man of God ” would also ask her for sex too, abi?Why don’t u just tell her to pray hard, by herself n for herself.
everybody wants to sleep with you because you constantly reek of sex!!!or maybe its some spiritual issh (that every guy who sets his eyes on you sees a sex tool not a woman)
honestly, I can only say that you need to really pray hard. There is one thing I will advise you to pray about and if possibly even fast; you may be giving off an invisible “aura” that is attracting the wrong sort of guys. you may have gotten this “spirit” from one or several of your previous sexual excapades. Pray hard for deliverance o… I wish you the best. May God help you find your missing rib.
Some ladies are like that !!I think the lady concerned has a Sexual Appealing Body and structure that makes even a priest blink like twice and Thrice !!Some ladies aint pretty but they spark the sex demons in a man with their Assets !!
Dear, there’s nothing wrong wth u. Belv me, men probably want 2 sleep wth b/c u ‘re incredibly sexy which is in order. But 4 attracting d bad guys constantly is a feedback of the signal u ‘re sending (the totality of ur atmospheric charge). U ‘ve aligned and programmed urself, early, for a particular set of men. Little did u knw that we share in the life forces of those we constantly associate wth, wether we ‘re concious of it or not. Knw that it takes twice effort and time 2 unlearned than learn. Your long history of contact wth the wrong guys has made u vulnerable in that regard. Now, u need 2 spend a length of time defamiliarising urself wth the wrong guys. It starts wth ur mind. By now u shd ‘ve learned by experience enough 2 be able 2 decifer these wrong guys, no matter their disguise, from afar. Stop giving them attention. They ‘ve done enof harm 2 u already. Provoke urself 4 ur sake. Don’t be in a hurry 2 date. Work on ur mind and ur personality long enof 2 overide ur early intimate programming. And learn 2 delay intimate talks when going on a new date. Don’t be loose and 2 friendly. Set boundaries, be firm and only permit wat u want. Maturity has nothing 2 do wth age – it’s a function of character. U can’t attract and retain mature men/minds when u ‘re not. Creat a picture of ur future (new) man in ur mind and go only 4 dat. Reconfigure and rebrand urself. It ‘ll take time tho, but ‘ll certainly pay. Better still get genuinely born again. And u ‘ll be amazed at the result. Hmmm……wat a long literny! Op it helps. Cheers!