#Blogfest 2:0 Day 22 – #30DaysCountDownTo2016

We might as well admit it, we want people to like us. You may hear someone say, “I don’t care whether people like me or not” But whenever you hear someone say that, just put it down as a fact that he or she is not really telling the truth.

A psychologist once said that “One of the deepest drives of human nature is the desire to be appreciated”. The longing to be liked, to be a sought- after person is fundamental in us.

Note however, that despite your attainments in popularity, you will never get everybody to like you. Some people just naturally won’t like you.

There are certain formulas and procedures which if followed faithfully can make you a person whom other people like. Now I’m not saying you go around kissing the asses of other people or trying to be what you’re not. But really, you can enjoy satisfactory personal relationships even if you are a “difficult” person or by nature shy.

I urge you to consider the importance of this subject and to give time and attention to its mastery, for you will never be fully happy until you do because the fact is that no matter what you want to do or whatsoever your aspirations and dreams, you need people to help you towards achieving them and if you are good with maintaining healthy relationships, that’s a plus for you.

The feeling of not been wanted or needed is one of the most devastating of all human reactions. The “Lone Wolf”, the isolated personality, the retiring individual, these people suffer a misery which is difficult to describe. In self-defense, they retire even deeper within themselves. If you have a feeling of uselessness, if nobody needs or wants you, you really ought to do something about it. It is not only a sad and pathetic way to live but it’s also serious psychologically.

To attain popularity or to become well liked, first become a comfortable person, one with whom people can associate without a sense of strain. A comfortable person is real, easy and natural.

Another thing is to develop the trait in you that has sincere and forthright interest in and love for people. Remember the second greatest commandment? Yes! “Thou shall love thy neighbor as thyself”. When you cultivate this basic trait, other traits will develop.

Still, another important factor in getting people to like you is to practice building up the ego of other persons. Do not deflate other people’s ego. This is not saying you should flatter people but build up their ego. Whomever you help to build up and become a better, stronger, finer person will give you his undying devotion. Build up as many people as you can. Do it unselfishly and because you like them. Do this and never lack for friends.

In conclusion, here are some rules for getting the esteem of others.1. Learn to remember names. A person’s name is to him the most important name in the world.2. Be a comfortable person. Be homey.3. Don’t be egotistical. Guard against giving the impression that you know it all.4. Cultivate the quality of being interesting so that people will want to be with you.5. Practice liking people until you learn to do so genuinely.6. Never miss an opportunity to say a word of congratulation upon anyone’s achievement or express sympathy in sorrow.

Finally, but definitely not least, get a deep spiritual experience so that you have something to give people that will help them to be stronger and meet life more effectively.

Remember, social skills matter a lot! Have fun developing your social skills and enjoy the happiness and satisfaction that comes from it.

Written by Jesuloba Owoeye