Credits: Lessons Learned in life

Dear Winning Woman,

CHOOSE YOU!!!

For the most part of my life, I had been shrinking myself at home, at school, at work, at church – with family, with friends, with colleagues, with peers. Trying to become Slimmer. Quieter. Less sensitive. Less talkative. Less opinionated. Less needy. Because I didn’t want to be a burden or to be perceived as having a mind of my own. I didn’t want to be too strong, too much or push people away. I wanted people to like me. I wanted to be cared for and valued. I wanted to be wanted.

So for years, I sacrificed myself for the sake of making other people happy. And for years, I suffered and even now I still have to live with the results of those years of shrinking.

But I’m tired of suffering, and I’m done shrinking myself.

It’s not my job to change who I am in order to become someone else’s idea of a worthwhile human being. I am worthwhile. Not because other people think I am, but because I exist, and therefore I matter.

My thoughts matter.

My feelings matter.

My voice matters.

My choices matter.

And with or without anyone’s permission or approval, I will continue to be who I am and speak my truth. Even if it makes people angry. Even if it makes them uncomfortable. Even if they refuse to support me. Even if they hate me. Even if they choose to leave. I refuse to shrink. I choose to take up space. I choose to honor my feelings. I choose to give myself permission to get my needs met. I choose to be happy. I choose to speak. I choose me!

Do you choose YOU?Shared  by Founder of WWW – Women who win – Ella Chukwu‘: +234 803 816 6660| ‘:+234 812 547 5625| È: +234 817 842 7828  | ella@womenwhowin-ng.org Web: www.womenwhowin-ng.orgTwitter: @womenwhowin_ngFacebook: www.facebook.com/womenwhowinng